Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Celebrating a 50 Pound Loss...or Not.

My husband has lost 50 pounds.

Of course, I'm thrilled for him. I know he's worked hard to lose those pounds. But at the same time, it's really hard for me to accept. I'm still at the 30 pound loss mark. And the scale is barely moving these days. (I guess it could be worse. It could be going up.)

One of the biggest challenges I have with his loss is that I've never weighed more than he does. In our entire relationship, we've both been overweight and he has weighed more than I have. Not anymore. And I don't want to be one of those couples where the women is so much heavier than the man. People look at those couples and wonder where's the attraction.

Also, because he's doing such a good job, I feel even more guilt when I eat something that I know I shouldn't. I don't even want to eat around him anymore. It makes me feel ashamed.

I should have started this post by making it clear that my husband is NOT making me feel these things. He's NOT doing anything to indicate he feels bothered by my lack of weight loss. He's very supportive, as he's always been. These emotions are all in my head.

The question do I get rid of them?


  1. I totally understand this. My fiance and I started out weight loss around the same time. He's lost a LOT (like 300 pounds) and I've lost 30. I'm so proud of him but at the same time he is skinny now and I'll still big. I've given up telling people I'm even trying to lose weight if they know his story.

    Anyway, just wanted to say I know how you feel!

  2. Congrats on losing 30 lbs. Men usually lose faster and easier than women, so try not to compare. I know, it's hard. You're an inspiration!